How to become resilient to the dreaded no

How to become resilient to the dreaded noHow to become resilient to the dreaded noWhen your boss turns down your idea, its natural to feel wounded you put yourself on the line with some original pitch, and then it was rejected.The chances are, however, the boss isnt saying no to hurt you. Shes doing it to get you to think up a better idea. And when companies reject you for a job, theyre not trying to ruin your future. Theyre usually looking for the best fit.Thats why the best thing you can immediately do when facing a no is refuse to take it personally. Take a deep breath.The most important thing is to resist the spiral into despair. We may misinterpret that no as a sign that were being undervalued, and well self-sabotage ourselves to meet those lower expectations nothing I do matters anyway, so why even try?But Harvard Business Review research explainshow you can turn that no into a success through a company case study on people who made the best out of their boss rejection.A 2016 s tudyfound that resource scarcity leads to mora creativity as the constraints force us tothink beyond the traditional functionality of a given product.Make it work, even if its garbageHBR uses the story of a retail business managers dilemma on he how made a best-seller out of an inferior product he couldnt returnAfter this managerwas told that he couldnt return a large quantity of poorly-made tube dresses back to the warehouse, he decided to reevaluate the product because otherwise, theyre gonna be sitting here forever. He decided to cut off the flimsy straps and sell the productas a superior beach cover-up. It became a best-seller.As this anonymous manager told a different study, Sometimes when I get stuff that I think is personally garbage, I have to look at it as a challenge How am I gonna make it work?Necessity and limits can be the spark toall creativity, as long as employees and managers feel empowered to take theirresources into new directions.Famous fashion consultant Tim Gun n critiqued the lack of designers making clothes for plus-size women under this mindset. In his Washington Post essay on the subject, he argued that, I profoundly believe that women of every size can look good. But they must be given choices.Theres an art to doing this. Designers, make it work.You may not have an ideal team, enough resources, or unlimitedtime or money, but you have your mind and your will to achieve your goals despite these setbacks. Researchers say that people succeed despite these nos when they overcome threat rigidity, or the fear to think were personally at fault or under threat during times of professional adversity.But you can unstuck yourself. Spend less time worrying about what you dont have, and focus that energy on making do with what you already have. As Steve Martin puts it, Be so good they cant ignore you.